Yesterday was a crazy day. I don't usually have really crazy days, or days that are wasted doing absolutely nothing I had planned to do. But, yesterday was one of those days.
I had woken up at 6am to go on my morning bike ride while the girls and Nathan slept. When I got home,
Maejae was awake and playing on the floor and Nathan was getting ready to leave. I thought to myself, today is going to be a productive day. I set out with a plan to get the floors vacuumed and laundry done so I could do a craft with Natalie. I had done 3 loads of laundry, and was just about to pick up a few straggling toys to vacuum when there was a little knock on my door.
I was in a hurry to run a few things upstairs so I answered the door without looking through my peep-hole. BIG MISTAKE. Day of productivity . . . down the drain!
In comes 3 men (why I let them in my house is beyond me). I am dumb. They are Kirby Vacuum salesmen and they want to show me a few cool tricks their vacuum can do. Well, we had recently had our carpets shampooed and I was less than impressed with the outcome. So, I figured that if they could get my carpets back to looking new, I'd give them a shot at their sales pitch. Little did I know - their sales pitch is 3 hours long. YES - 3 HOURS!! I was livid. Finally, I
texted Nathan and told him to get his butt home because apparently when a girl says "that's not in our budget right now" it means nothing to salespeople. They wouldn't take "no" for an answer and kept trying to bargain with me.
Finally, I said, "I need to talk to my husband before I make any decisions, and he is on his way home now." Enter "PART OF THE PROBLEM"
The salesmen boss dude (the one who apparently is in charge of bargaining) has the balls to try one last sales pitch before Nathan gets home. It went like this: (S-salesmen and J-Jenn)
S:
ok,
that'd be great to talk to your husband, but let me ask you . . . who does the cleaning in the house.
J: Well, considering Nathan is in med school, I do most of it
S: So, don't you think your needs and comfort while cleaning should come first
J: I actually don't mind cleaning my house
S: Well, don't you think your children deserve cleaner, healthier carpet to play on
J: Oh man, it's not that bad . . . How much is it?
S: Well, we'll get to that part. Do you think you would benefit from a Kirby Vacuum?
J: Sure, I guess. But, how much is it.
S: Well, I'm not supposed to say until we have you committed, but it is $1999 and an additional $400 for the carpet shampooer
attachment.
J: Yeah, that's way too much for us. We don't have that in our budget.
S: Well, that's
ok. Think of this . . . I'm just saying, think of all the extra dirt our vacuum pulls up compared to yours. And, think of how versatile it is. It really is an investment, and one I think you would enjoy for many years. 3 Carpet cleanings a year and it's paid for.
** Thinking to myself: we only get our carpets shampooed once a year - we're not that dirty. and at $300 a year, we're looking at 8 years of carpet cleanings for this to pay for itself.
Hmmm, not good on the
salesmen's part.
J: Possibly. But, like I said, we don't have $2400 in our budget to purchase a vacuum right now (yes - you read that right. $2400 for a vacuum)
S: Understandably. What if I cut you a deal? Would you be willing to purchase it if I gave it to you for $1500
J: Sorry, that's still too much.
S:
Ok, the best deal I can do is $1100 for the vacuum and I'll throw in the carpet shampooer.
J: Like I said, I need to discuss this with my husband as it is not in our budget to make such a purchase
S: Well, think of it this way (talking very fast so I can't break in). When your husband wants a new car, or a new TV, I'm sure he gets in his mind what is best for him, and what he wants. I'm sure he wouldn't have to wait for you to decide on his purchase. And this vacuum will make cleaning easier for you, and will guarantee your children a cleaner environment. Don't you feel you have the authority to make this decision based on your needs without your husband's permission?
** ARE YOU KIDDING ME???
I was so livid that I promptly sent Nathan a text that read, "how long."
To which he replied, "4 minutes"
I was so mad I could barely even get out what I wanted to. So, instead I said, "my husband and I are very open about our budget and I will not be making this decision on my own. I told you I didn't like the price and it was not in our budget. You will need to wait for my husband to get home and discuss this with him."
I'm fairly certain the "boss" salesmen did not like my response. He quickly changed his methods and said, "
Ok, I would be happy to talk to your husband. But, I don't want to overwhelm him so I am going to step out and I'll return when he gets home."
Finally - 1 salesmen gone, 2 left to kick out. At this point, the other 2 salesmen were packing up and getting ready to leave when one of their phones rings. I could hear the "boss" on the other line.
S: Listen Will (2
nd salesmen), this has been 2 1/2 hours of your time. Don't lose this sale. You need to show him how much dirt is still in his carpets after they use their vacuum."
W:
Ok, how?
S: Do the demo again.
AHHHHHH! No - No - No. You are not doing another 2 hour demo with my husband to try to sell us something I have clearly stated we cannot afford. I was mad. Plus, I had a chiropractor appointment at 4pm and it was 3:30pm. Finally, I see the car (I keep the door open when strange men are in my house, as if that will really help me in an emergency).
I am so glad Nathan is home that as soon as he walks in I say "sorry,
hun, but I gotta get ready for my appointment." I dashed upstairs as fast as I could. Nathan talks loud, so I could hear him saying, "that's a lot of money, we have not budgeted for a large purchase this term, etc". The guy won't give in.
Then, a knock on my door. I am flustered, annoyed, irritated, etc. It is my dear friend Kristen. She pulls me outside and says, "oh Jenn. These guys are bad news. They are horrible and don't let you say no. Don't do this Jenn. Don't buy it." I told her I wasn't going to. Then she says, "
ok, I can stay here and watch your kids while you go." So, I leave the house - 2 minutes before I'm supposed to be at the doctor's office -
Ahhh.
As I drive away I see Nathan and Kristen, the 3 kids (Kristen's son was there too) and the salesmen. It doesn't look fun.
I was so MAD. Nathan came to my appointment after he was finally able to KICK them out of the house. He says, "well, he told me he would sell it to us for $800."
$800!! Why would he try to sell it to me for $1100 (which was apparently the best deal he could offer me) but then tell my husband $800? Ugh. These guys are sketchy. Then Nathan says, "Kristen was so funny." Turns out, the salesmen offered to come to her house and do a demo. To which Kristen promptly said, "Don't you dare."
I wish I was as gutsy as Kristen!
Nathan said he handled them very well. But, the "boss" dude wouldn't give in. Nathan goes, "Jenn, he was good. He said I wouldn't have a problem paying for it cause I was in med school and I could finance it, or put it on a credit card. He was still selling up until I closed the door on him."
Ugh.
SOOOO many problems with this. The REST of the Problem:
1) Allowing your company to enter a house with only a woman present is not smart. To bring 3 MEN into my home was kind of an invasion. Granted, I should not have let them in. But, still. Not good business practices.
2) It should NOT take 3 hours to try to sell something to people. You ruined my day, my productivity, and both of my daughter's days (they did NOT get mommy time).
3) Don't you DARE assume that I don't have a close relationship with my husband and that you can manipulate me into buying something because "I don't need my husband's permission."
4) No, I actually don't need my husband's permission to do anything. BUT - we are a TEAM. I love him more than anything on this Earth, and we WORK TOGETHER. You bet your BUTT I will talk to him before making any decisions on ANYTHING that costs over $50.
5) We choose to live with a budget. We LOVE our budget. It keeps us responsible as consumers. It teaches us the difference between wants and needs. It teaches us that there are reasons to reward yourself and that sometimes an extra want is
ok, if purchased within your budget. DO NOT tell me how to run my finances.
6) CREDIT! Are you kidding me? We do not have credit card debt, and hopefully NEVER will. When you have a budget, and stick to it, you do not need to use credit. DO NOT try to tell me that it is
ok to buy a vacuum on credit when I have a vacuum sitting in my closet that works just fine. This is not a need, it is not even my want. It is a cool vacuum, but I don't need it, and I don't want to spend that much money on it. Therefore, DO NOT tell me, or my husband, that we can finance it.
C'mon.
7) When someone says, "NO" you need to LISTEN to them. END OF STORY.
So - after doing 3 loads of laundry and thinking I was going to have an awesome day with my girls . . . I ended up sitting on my couch for 3 hours listening to a sales pitch and getting very frustrated with the entire situation I had gotten myself into. What a waste of a day.
Then - I got a phone call while at the chiropractor. My brother, Jason, got in an auto accident. He was stopped at a stop light when a truck plowed into him going about 60 miles an hour. The back of my brother's truck is now in the cab of the truck. Jason is
ok - minus the back and neck pains, and sore muscles, but it still wasn't the best way to end a crazy day.
So, to end on a happy note, I went with my friends, Kristen and Ashely, to our ward's enrichment night and ate lots of chocolate covered fruit and sponge cake! See, the Lord even looks out for me without my knowing. It just happened that enrichment was on a night when I truly needed a break!
So - lessons learned here:
** DO NOT, under any circumstances, open your door without looking out that peep-hole. DO NOT, at any time, invite 3 men into your house because you don't have the heart to tell them "no". DO NOT put your children's safety in harms way because you are concerned about hurting
someone's feelings. Plus, I have AWESOME friends who always seem to rescue me. And, lastly . . . I honestly, positively, absolutely, have the BEST HUSBAND in the world. He seriously saved my butt on this one. And, I'm glad we really do have such an honest, open, trusting relationship.
This year for Thanksgiving, I was able to experience the fullness of the atonement of Jesus Christ, and truly feel of His love and power to redeem our souls. After trails and tribulations, and after experiencing what I hope no other family has to experience (but unfortunately, know many do), and after 10 years of being separated . . . we were united in Love! This picture so perfectly captures what my family stands for - Unconditional Love! My mother, who so humbly and perfectly held the burden of carrying her children through hell and back, can now put her arms around all 4 of us at the same time! It was this day that I had lived my life for, and this day that I will forever cherish and hold dear to my heart. The courage and faith of some family members, the hard work and courage of others, the forgiveness and healing through Jesus Christ, and the determination from all of us truly testifies that Families are Forever!
We spent Christmas here in AZ and enjoyed having our little family traditions. Nathan stayed up late getting all the Santa treats set out, and made sure we woke up to a wonderful Christmas morning full of stories, presents, breakfast, and playing! At the end of the day, Nathan said, "Jenn, do you realize we haven't left the downstairs all day!" We stayed in the living room playing with new toys, games, watching a Christmas movie, and hanging out. It was perfect!
We had some of our best friends from Idaho come down for New Year's. We decided to take them on a hike here in AZ. As you can see, Maejae quickly fell asleep and enjoyed her ride on mommy's back. Nathan and Natalie had fun walking over rocks, climbing bigger rocks, and staying away from the cacti! Natalie hiked the entire hike, and was quite proud of herself! So was Daddy . . . he loves his little girl!
For Easter, we again took a trip to the Mesa Temple for the Easter Pageant. Both girls stayed awake for the entire thing, and Maejae sang along to every single song! Then we participated in the Midwestern University Easter Egg festivities. I think Natalie enjoyed jumping and playing with friends. She also liked eating candy and playing with her stickers. Maejae was quite loud - again, and let everyone know that she is growing up! Don't you love their shirts? A friend got them for the girls and I think they're adorable :)
For Natalie's Birthday Surprise, we took her to Disney On Ice - 100 Years! It was so much fun watching Natalie get excited when she saw characters she knew. I think her favorite parts were the princess dance, and the part where the whale swallows Pinnocchio. I'm not sure why she thought that was so cool, but for days she would say, "Mom - remember my skating show where the whale ate that boy! And remember when the whale sneezed and the boy flew out? That was so funny!" She sure is a character herself, and we love her for that. She has been a great blessing in our lives. I can hardly believe she is 3 years old . . .